Unit 192 Part A

1    Fundamentally, though, it all comes down to love ...
2    and the warm, secure and fulfilling feelings love gives us ...
3    and it's these which provide the impetus to continue the partnership.
4    Let’s face it the dizzy passion and excitement fade ...
5    and it's what you're left with which is the must important thing.
6    But keeping those moments of romance and indulgence going on a relationship ...
7    leads to a lasting intimacy which Is much closer than a partnership ...
8    where love is interpreted merely as companionship.
9    I couldn't agree more, and people of this age have developed tolerance and coping strategies.
10    Maybe, but they'll have the experience of having been in relationships ...
11    and will know that they can survive the break-up and can operate on their own.
12    Coming from the same social position, education and experience makes people feel ...
13    they're on common ground and can understand each other.
14    Whether people stay together or not is more to do with who they are then where they've come from,
15    it's a question of personality rather than upbringing. 

16    Our personality is unique, but obviously,
17    it's going to be influenced by role models to a certain extent.
18    You see, since childhood we've developed deep-rooted ideas about …
19    what's right and wrong in a relationship,
20    and also what's right and wrong in other contexts.
21    We've learned this from observing our parents.
22    We've interviewed couples we introduced who have found long-lasting happiness.
23    Actually, much of my time is spent encouraging clients to open up to each other and …
24    reveal things they may not have thought worth talking about or have hidden for years.
25    I don't think we can underestimate the importance of …
26    developing and maintaining regular communication;
27    not just on everyday happenings and plans,
28    but about how you reacted to something,
29    what the long term effect on you has been and …
30    whether your feelings have changed in any way.
31    If couples haven't learned to express their feelings before these events,
32    it can be very difficult to overcome them.